Wednesday, February 3, 2010

the back up girl

ive spoken about most of my major coming out moments now, and except for a few small ones not worth talking about, there is prolly only one major one left that i havnt mentioned. i was gunna post it soon, but i thought of it tonight when i was flickin thru the TV and came across an old episode of friends. in the episode, Rachel discovers that Pheobe and Joey have a pact to get married if they are still single at 40. She thinks its a great idea and tries to make the same agreement with Ross, but she then discovers that Pheobe also made the same agreement with Ross, and all hell breaks loose. i hadnt seen the episode b4, having only ever watched friends occasionally, but it was hilariouus
so anyway, when i was 18 me and this girl who i was good friends with from school made the same pact, except we were gunna get married at 30. since school we have stayed very good, although distant friends as she lives a fair way away, but we have the kind of friendship where we dont need to speak or see each other that often to stay close. we make up for it when we see each other once or twice a year.
about 3 years ago, i went to visit her for her birthday. she had a massive fun party. i had planned to tell her that night, and of course, in order to do so got myself very drunk, but eventually started talking.
it was prolly sometime well after midnight, we were sitting outside , just the 2 of us, having deep and meaningful conversations and i told her i have something to tell her. in my drunken state i started to cry, and i couldnt blurt the words out. it took me about half an hour to calm down, and i started to say it several times, but still nothing came out of my mouth.
she started guessing what it was, with no luck. she thought i had done something bad, like killed someone or something!
i asked her just to let me be for a few minutes so i could pull myself together, and finally i said it. i didnt say "im gay"
i said "i have been seeing someone for several years, and have kept it a secret from you"
she said "oh.... kay......' very slowly.
i said "yeah, and HIS name is **********'
she was silent for a few moments , before it sunk in. she gave me a big hug, and harrassed me for the rest of the night about why i hadnt told her sooner. i explained it of course, and she understood. like everyone else she said she had never even suspected.
she then remembered our pact, and said she is still marrying me when we're 30 , jokingly of course. the joke still goes on til this day
she has since met my bf several times, and they get along like a house on fire which is great. she wants to marry us both when we are 30 now , lol

2 comments:

  1. Well, if the three of you get married you can have lots of kids.

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  2. lol well look at it this way you have a high chance of never having one of those "you are sleeping on the couch" moments

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